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Ella overheard Tom and I talking about a potential move* this morning, and was agahst. “I don’t want to move. I like our house. I like my school.” I remembered suddenly how hard it was to move as a kid. I did it more than most, and but never built up that ‘military brat’ outer shell. I went into every new town wanting to be accepted, to make friends, to stay.

Tom and I looked at each other, and sighed. “We know, baby, but wouldn’t it be exciting to get to live in a big city, with lots of museums?” I asked, playing devil’s advocate, even though I am not convinced all the bones in the Smithsonian are worth more than my patch of green garden.

Ella’s voice quavered. “I don’t want to be far away from my best friends.” I chewed on my lip, and hugged her. How do I comfort her and convince her that she will make new friends, when I dread the possibility of having to build another tribe – when I am almost certain I couldn’t replicate the friendships I have here?

Alice watched us from across the dining room table, drawing. She shrugged. “Don’t worry Ella. We are your best friends and we will never leave you.”


*Yes, this is on the table again. I have a feeling that, as long as Tom works for this particular agency, it will continue to be an issue (or oppertunity, depending on how you look at it).

8 Responses to Tremulous

  1. jennifer says:

    We have been there with Jonas. It’s hard to believe he was only like 3 when we moved here. He has always known we have wanted to move back, but this is pretty much all he knows. I think with an email address and the promise of communication with anyone he pleases, he has softened to the idea of us moving where ever. Plus, he will always be able to make new friends. Alice is perfect. Love her optimism. They all are.

  2. Chance says:

    “Don’t worry Ella. We are your best friends and we will never leave you.” How did she hear Dad’s lecture on this topic!!??!

  3. Courtney says:

    Im so sorry you have to make such a hard decision, and especially that you have to make it over and over again :(. Well do I know the heartbreak. I’ve only moved twice, once at 6 and once at 19 but they were both 5 year adjustments for me. Your family is so resilient, though, and so close. I’m sure you will be happy in either city.

  4. Meghan says:

    Okay sheets are just out of the dryer, I’ll get them on the guest bed and set up the pack and play, see you in 20?

  5. Brandon Quest says:

    You can tell her uncle B said he cant wait for her to give him a guided tour in the museums! I am excited for you guys!

  6. Debi French says:

    Aww…we moved all the time when I was a kid. Just different cities, but when you are little it might as well be across the world. I was never great at making friends, and it was so hard. Spokane is the first place I have ever lived for this long, and it’s the first time I’ve ever had the same friends for 10+ years. I can’t imagine having to make a choice like that. What a hard time to make it too (not that it’s ever easy). I hope you find peace in whatever decision is made, and you guys are so lucky to have each other. (((Ivory&family)))

  7. Jenna says:

    There’s still the point that if you move to this coast, you have to put up with me crashing into your house one weekend or more per year. With my brood, not a car, of course.

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