Thu 13 Dec 2007
The weight of the world is 34lbs
Posted by Ivory under Cricket, Ella, Motherhood
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Two years into this and it still seems a little absurd to me that I am someone’s mom. Soon, I’m sure, whoever is in charge is going to realize how ridiculous this is and give my kids to someone more suitable, someone grown up. Because I? Am 12. I laugh at poop jokes, I eat ice cream for dinner, I hate housework, I wear mismatched socks, I can’t do math in my head, I waste hours daydreaming about being famous, I am awkward and forget to brush my hair and never sort my laundry by color.
And yet.. here I am. The mother of two tiny girls, who are depending on me to teach them how to be fully functioning women. It is up to their father (who plays video games, can’t tie a tie, takes coffee with his sugar and owns one pair of shoes) and I to teach them about self worth, about compassion, about the delicate balance of fear and trust. It is up to us to make sure they know how to stand up for themselves, that they know when to walk away from a fight, and that they know we are always in their corner. We somehow have to teach them to be independent, to love fiercely, to value effort, to demand substance, to give sincerely, and to be grateful for the small blessings in their lives.
Or maybe they will learn all of this despite the fact that they have us for parents.








Precious pictures today. I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one who sometimes feels inept as a mommy.
“It is up to their father (who plays video games, can’t tie a tie, takes coffee with his sugar and owns one pair of shoes)”
Oh thank goodness someone else out there is with one of those….I thought I was alone…
I’m almost 3 years into this mommy gig, and I’m still unsure of myself. It’s still odd when Sam calls me Mommy, or when Abigail says “mama” because really, should they be saying that to me? Isn’t there someone ‘in charge’ around here?
The pictures are very sweet. I can’t wait to meet Alice!
Hehe…I don’t think that changes much.
Lovely pics!! I am so excited to meet your new babe!
Those are sweet pictures. I feel the same way often – “when did I grow up and WHO gave me the responsibility to raise children???”
I totally understand the mommy thing.. I look at Madison and think WOW I am a mom to 7 yr old.. sometimes I think of her more of a little sister than my own daughter.. how crazy.. But then they go and do something that totally melts your heart and you know they were meant for you.
So I’m not the only one freaked out about teaching kids this kind of stuff when I’m not sure about it on my own? Good to know.
Beautiful pics, dear.
Congratulation! It’s good to know I’m not the only one who still feels like their twelve.
eternal_green
2007-12-13 01:42 pm UTC (link) Track This
oh so teeny tiny! I totally miss that time. I can’t believe that James was EVER that tiny, but he WAS!
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You are wonderful parents! Don’t let yourself think otherwise…although I think you know it, really.
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magdalene156
2007-12-13 04:39 pm UTC (link) Track This
this pic made me say “awwwww”
Our wee December babies are growing up so fast!
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thegoatguys
2007-12-13 03:00 pm UTC (link) Track This
sounds just like our house. i’m famous already in my head. my kids are already fighting off the paparazzi.
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magdalene156
2007-12-13 04:37 pm UTC (link) Track This
I love your posts and miss you when you are not around.
You are a wonderful mother and your girls are very lucky to have you.
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magdalene156
2007-12-13 04:40 pm UTC (link) Track This
PS
I could have writen that first paragraph… and my socks are mismatched also,that is if I even bother with socks!
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blamedstarlie
2007-12-14 05:28 am UTC (link) Track This
“I waste hours daydreaming about being famous”
You too?!!
Congratulations! Alice is beautiful, and Ella is so cute with her! I read a few back poasts, and cried at Alice’s birth. Okay, I want another one
Last night Gavin and I had ice cream for dinner…until I realized he probably should have something else too. But we started with the ice cream, ha. I don’t have to report that at his wellbaby check do I?